We were on the topic of the state of Malaysia and migration for the sake of our families.
An excerpt of the email.
which is what I think that your plan or the exit
> strategy is exactly what I
> should hv done years ago..... But again, there will
> always be the other side
> of the coin. the struggle of being alone in a
> foreign land and all..... Its
> something that we will have to do in the face of
> adversity of living
> abroad.......
My reply to him and to everyone who has ever thought of migrating for the sake of the children and future generations. References to names have been replaced.
It's actually not that bad overseas. What you hear are
usually emotional and clouded perspectives. There is
no adversity, none whatsoever.
The social support structure is set up well overseas
due to the fact that everyone here lives the way it
is. Extended families are a luxury, therefore people
depend on these support mechanism.
- i.e. daycare are regulated by the government with
CPR specialists, food are regulated by qualified
dietician, this is because lots of parents leave kids
with daycare.
- Schools are required to present a daily report
online on homework and teacher's comments.
- Hospitals are well equipped with natal care, post
and pre-natal. Counseling sessions and free lessons
Nurses actually called (*wife name*) daily to check on her blood
sugar level during pregnancy. They gave her a blood
sugar test kit for free, taught her how to use it.
- In California, instead of raising energy prices at
every whim and fancy, the electricity company actually
comes to your house and plant trees for FREE to
provide shade so as to reduce energy consumption.
(financial accountability and participative democracy
at work)
- In Singapore, HDB community centres have taichi
sessions for the elderly, dialysis centres, subsidised
daycare etc for kids and elderly (again, smaller
families and parents have to go to work).
Like I said, people are mentally clouded by the factor
of being alone and are overwhelmed by the this fact.
We longed for familiarity - we look for our teh tarik,
when we can either make it ourselves or go to
starbucks for a Chai Latte.
However, if you live in a social system which is
predominantly based on nuclear/small families, these
structures are provided by the very society.
Hence, to summarise, it WILL work out well for you and
(*wife name here*) should you make a move. Simply because in
Australia/UK/USA/Singapore family structures are
smaller and a participative democracy ensures that the
needs of the individual is taken into account.
Quite frankly, I realised our needs are not very
different - whatever culture or background you come
from.
If you think Malaysia gives you the trappings of a good life, think again. Good is relative and the human perception is again relative.
Fearing the unknown is natural, however do not allow unfamiliarity to cloud your decisions. Understand unfamiliarity is part of change as you move from your comfort zone to a new social framework. However, just bear in mind that you are just as human as the next Australian, Singaporean, American and quite frankly your needs and perception of happiness, social justice and fairness is usually not very far off.
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Hi, I can't agree more to those last few lines that you have mentioned.
I am all out for these 5 people who are detained by the Malaysian government who is a joke in the international scene and truly gutless to charge them in an open court. I can’t imagine Malaysia reaching its 2020 vision as a developed nation. A developed nation does not classify its citizens by their race or religion. Setup outside the square – you blind leaders and ignorant mass! Which developed nation has its citizens stamped with religion? Every form you fill at every level needs this information. What if I don’t have a religion? What if I am an atheist – but good at heart. I am sure one can be spiritual without donning any religion. Religion is only a tool in the ladder of spirituality in attaining bliss. People of Malaysia need to wake up to this. Am I an Indian – probably not, but my Malaysian identity card says so. How come I’m Indian if I am born here (even my parents were born here too). How stupid can the government be? How stupid are we to allow a political party as MIC to exist? The days of Malaysian Indian Congress have died and gone. We are all Malaysians !!!!! There should be no word Indian anywhere if we want full racial integration – but the govt would not allow these. I can’t understand why???? Why do you need to protect only one species - bumiputras? Why can’t the govt protect all species? Weren’t we all born here, don’t we all pay taxes, don’t we all jump up and down on Merdeka day? I am sure our beloved lowly ‘educated’ leaders can get a discounted AirAsia flight to seek and learn the world outside. Well, partly we are to be blamed as our forefathers were illiterates and knew nothing but to serve the great British rulers. Divide and rule was the British’s game plan. Surprisingly, UMNO, MCA and MIC are using the same principles – dividing Malaysian according to religion and race. More surprisingly is the public support they get for this murder. Shame on us – for being so ignorant and stupid. Slap yourselves for this – as this has costed the generations to come their lives. Maybe after removing Samy Vellu who is nothing but a 3B leader (bald, blunt and blind) - MIC might get some fresh leads and ideas. Or maybe MIC must be scrapped totally. If you are living in Sg. Siput then you might find that people revere him as god. However, with a closer observation you’ll see that people there are dying to be Indians and not Malaysians. So our 3B leader provides some cheap ‘entertainment’ for Deepavali and is elected to stay as the leader for Indians in Malaysian for 30 years. How cheap and lame is that? Wake up boys – party time is over! Well, for all I can write – I wish people could read, think and grow. I am third generation Indian – but I’m more Malaysian than Indian. My grandparents were illiterate, not me and not you. Let’s get a fresh start from here on !
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